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It's called "Transition"
Take Advantage of the Springboard of Life Changes!
Reflections by Paul Blythe
"Transition" is the term used by
social science to talk about how we experience change.
In many groups, many countries, I find most people don't know they
are "in Transition"
until they near the end of the process!.
Yet, understanding it can make the experience a lot easier!
It is Certainly a Process:
* When people tell stories of big changes in their lives, good or
bad, they look back and see a process.
* It can last from a few hours to many weeks, depending on:
1. how big the change is,
2. how many changes have they experienced before this one,
3. whether or not they could talk freely with someone about it.
Not, whether it is good or bad (although, unexpected changes
seem harder.)
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Feeling a wide range of feelings, people
can wonder if they are "losing it." Even happy
changes like marriage or birth of children, can bring unpleasant
emotions to surface.
I hope you will know why this is, by the end of
this page, and set your mind at ease!
The process has some stages people talk about:
Some say it is like the rapids in a river.
You seem to be floating along and around the
next bend, it narrows! The water is fast and churning. Then it levels
out again.
William Bridges talks about three stages:
A time of Ending, when things are closing down, or finishing
a cycle.
A Fallow time, when nothing seems to be happening.
Next, a time of new Beginning, feeling your way into a more
or less unknown future.
I like four stages, like four seasons:
* Autumn or Fall suggest Endings are natural, rather than
tragic.
* Winter is a Fallow time, nature is hibernating, maybe the
process becomes invisible.
*Spring, a time of Beginnings, and things unfold according
to prevailing conditions.
* Summer, for me is a time of Working.
This carries the idea that we are always in transitions of one sort
or another! Sort of takes the sting out of
it.
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